Sunday, 30 April 2017

I'm Back

Greetings all,

It's been nearly 3/4 of a year since I announced my hiatus. Since then work on EgaFem has been few and far between, however this was unfortunately necessary. EgaFem has always been in  my heart, I've found not doing it very difficult. It has never been far from my thoughts.

During my time off I have made a few small videos on the EgaFem YouTube channel:

I've also got a personal channel. I update this most days with a short video on anything. It explains some of the stuff I've been going through that has kept me from EgaFem:

However, I am getting better. I have a plan and hope to start producing a bit more content here and there, however this will be as and when I can. I have spread myself a little bit thin so feel a need to focus on specific platforms and topics. My primary platform will be the YouTube channel, so please subscribe to keep up to date. I won't always have the time or energy to update this website to highlight content.

I tend to put a link to new videos on my twitter feeds. My activism videos on @EgaFem and my personal video links on @DisTurqLlama so both are worth following.

Each of my videos is done using a different technique until I find one I am happy with. I need to find the balance between producing a reasonable quality video for you and not needing to edit it and spend too much time and energy on it for me. I am working on the assumption so long as the quality is watchable and not terrible you, the audience, would rather have more slightly lower quality videos than fewer better quality ones.

I also want to thank everyone for being so patient. I was terrified if I returned I would need to hit the ground running and be expected to produce content at the same rate I used too. I was scared I would break myself again.

But when I released recent videos the response has been fantastic. I was worried I would have to start from scratch and, although I understand my audience will have naturally reduced due to my inactivity, I was worried I would have to start all over in building up followers. So thank you everyone who has stuck with me during these really dark times. It means so much to me, and I'm so grateful to you all. It is because of you that I feel motivated and strong enough to return.

Content will be adhoc, as and when I can. But my fears have subsided and I am ready. I'm back. I have fallen, but you helped me pick myself up and I am ready to stand tall again, and hopefully have learnt my lessons to ensure I don't have a repeat of being forced to take a break. Your understanding in that has filled me with hope.

And so, with that in mind - here is my latest video: How to Make Anything a Gendered Issue

Wednesday, 28 September 2016

Rape: Definition and #NounSwap Test

“As a woman, I demanded to be responsible & accountable for my choices and actions, equally to men.” – Blaise Wilson, Twitter, 27th March 2016 [8]

Update 28/09/2016: new petition has been launched - let's get this one debated in parliament!

Articles in this series:
Gendered Equality of Opportunity:
Definition of UK rape law: This article
Campaign Info:
Impact on Reports:
Denial of Women’s Impact and Agency:

Author: Blaise Wilson

In this series we will look at feminist’s favourite topic: Rape.

Campaign - sign the petition [9]:
[old petition:]

Based on our definition of Gendered Equality of Opportunity [1] we will start with a #NounSwap test of the UK legal definition and then look at the impacts of the current definition.

What is the UK Law?

The UK law is separated into several parts. We will concentrate on the main definition of rape, but the whole Sexual Offences Act 2003 should be reviewed using the #NounSwap Test.

The UK Rape law, part of the Sexual Offences Act 2003 [2], currently states:

(1)A person (A) commits an offence if—
(a)he intentionally penetrates the vagina, anus or mouth of another person (B) with his penis,
(b)B does not consent to the penetration, and
(c)A does not reasonably believe that B consents.
(2)Whether a belief is reasonable is to be determined having regard to all the circumstances, including any steps A has taken to ascertain whether B consents.
(3)Sections 75 and 76 apply to an offence under this section.
(4)A person guilty of an offence under this section is liable, on conviction on indictment, to imprisonment for life.” [Emphasis ours]

It becomes immediately apparent this indubitably fails the #NounSwap test as it makes it impossible for a women to rape a man. It excludes a women enveloping by concentrating on penetration, with emphasis on the penis (penetration with other objects is covered in a related law).

In layman’s terms rape is ‘forced to have sex against their will’. However if a women forces a man to have sex with her, under UK law this is not considered rape, but a form of sexual assault which not only carries a lesser sentence but has very different social implications. The very legal definition excludes female perpetrators.

What is very curious is the rape law breaks the Equality Act 2010 [3], which include indirect discrimination by

“Indirect discrimination

(1)A person (A) discriminates against another (B) if A applies to B a provision, criterion or practice which is discriminatory in relation to a relevant protected characteristic of B's.

(2)For the purposes of subsection (1), a provision, criterion or practice is discriminatory in relation to a relevant protected characteristic of B's if—

(a)A applies, or would apply, it to persons with whom B does not share the characteristic,

(b)it puts, or would put, persons with whom B shares the characteristic at a particular disadvantage when compared with persons with whom B does not share it,

(c)it puts, or would put, B at that disadvantage, and

(d)A cannot show it to be a proportionate means of achieving a legitimate aim.

(3)The relevant protected characteristics are—

gender reassignment;
marriage and civil partnership;
religion or belief;
sexual orientation”

The Citizen’s advice bureau summaries this:

“Indirect discrimination is when there’s a practice, policy or rule which applies to everyone in the same way, but it has a worse effect on some people than others. The Equality Act says it puts you at a particular disadvantage.”

This means the Sexual Offences Act 2003 breaks the Equality Act 2010 by discriminating against both men and women.

It discriminates against men because when a women commits the same crime of forcing a man to have sex with them, the male victim cannot get equal justice.

It also discriminates against women because it does not recognise a women impact and agency equal to men. It denies them the right to be treated as equal adults and to take personal responsibility for the consequences of their actions. This in turn promotes the idea that women are less capable than men, that their actions have less meaning and, thus, promotes discrimination against women.

Rape Culture

Wikipedia [5] references Attenborough (2014)[6] and defines Rape culture as:

“Behaviors commonly associated with rape culture include victim blaming, sexual objectification, trivializing rape, denial of widespread rape, refusing to acknowledge the harm caused by some forms of sexual violence, or some combination of these”

When looking at the current attitudes of male victims of female rape a clear rape culture emerges. There are many myths surrounding male rape victims [7], including concepts that men wanted it, that they should have fought back, and trivializing it by its lack of legal recognition. Worst of all the rape culture denies that women are capable of rape – denying women’s right to action.

It perpetuates the concept that women are acted upon, and cannot act - that women are only objects when it comes to sexual deviancy. The very legal definition of rape turns women into victims, and men into perpetrators.

But, you’re a Feminist?

EgaFem is a Feminist body. We believe women should be treated equally to men. This includes not only the benefits, but also the responsibilities. We believe that women should be treated as adults, that women’s impact and agency should be equally recognised to men’s. We believe women should be equally responsibility for the consequences of their actions – be they the rewards of hard work, or the punishments of criminal acts.

Women must be equal at all levels, not just when it benefits or is convenient to them.

Anything less belittles women, increases discrimination against them and treats women as if they are children. And we believe this is misogyny.

Equal rights, equal responsibility. For better or worse.

Up Next

Coming up, we will investigate if women have equal impact and agency to men when it comes to rape. We will investigate if women can, and do, force men into sex, and look at impact on their victims.

Previous article: Gendered Equality of Opportunity:

Next article:
Campaign Info:


[1] Gendered Equality of Opportunity:
[2] UK rape law:
[3] Indirect Discrimination:
[4] UK Citizen Advice, Indirect Discrimination:
[5] Wiki Rape Culture:
[6] Attenborough, Frederick (2014). "Rape is rape (except when it's not): the media, recontextualisation and violence against women". Journal of Language Aggression and Conflict 2 (2): 183–203. doi:10.1075/jlac.2.2.01att.
[7] Male Rape Victims:
[8] Blaise Wilson Tweet:
[9] Sign the Petition to change the UK Rape Law:

Wednesday, 31 August 2016

EgaFem Hiatus

Author: Blaise Wilson
Greetings all.

As some may have noticed EgaFem has been a little bit lax in content for the last 6 weeks. This is due to a change in personal circumstance.

Everything's fine! No need to panic but the result is I need to focus on other things for a few months. I hope to do a few bits here and there, maybe some small videos or a few opinionated posts but none of the in depth analysis I really love to get my teeth into.

I made a short video to summarise this and to inform those who subscribe to the YouTube channel.

I hope to be back up and running in a few months, I love doing EgaFem and am hugely passionate about it. It isn't going anywhere! Just taking a short break.

Thank you everyone who has been supporting EgaFem, and please bare with me and be patient while things get back on track.

Saturday, 9 July 2016

Summary: Types of Feminism

Types of Feminism:
Summary of Types of Feminism: This article
Libertarian and Egalitarian Feminism:
Liberal and Marxist Feminism:
Radical and Socialist Feminism:
Intersectional Feminism:
International Feminism:
Other Types of Feminism:

Author: Blaise Wilson

Video summary of the Type of Feminism series:

To round off our Types of Feminism series, here is a handy dandy picture that can be downloaded and used.

Please see the links above for more information on these, and on additional types of feminism. This picture only include the most dominant forms, but there are plenty more! Many of them have multiple names, so again please check the links above.

If you were a feminist, or are one already - what kind are you?

There is lot of supporting evidence behind that simple summary. Follow the links at the top for a more indepth analysis and other types of less dominant forms for feminism.

The main reason we made this infograph is to highlight the term 'feminism' include a vast variety of ideologies - many of which are competing. Hopefully it will help people target specific foundations and sub-types of feminism e.g. Radical Feminism spews a lot of hate and should be called out on their misandry. But Radical Feminism does not represent all feminists such as Christina Hoff Sommers.

The hope is individuals can promote forms of feminism they approve off, while fighting the toxic elements and hopefully change the course of feminism's future.

This is based on the assumption Feminism HAS a future, as we don't think it is going to die. Change is easier and more likely that killing it.

Edit 18/06/2016: After some well rounded feedback in the comments the chart has been updated. 'Marxist/ Outcome Feminism' was changed to just 'Outcome Feminism'. Also changed the gender section on the Radical Feminism part to indicate the dispute between gender being and not being 100% a social construct.

Edit 09/07/2016: added the Type of Feminism video and released article with a change of date

Saturday, 2 July 2016

Blaise’s Opinion: SJW & Intersectional Feminism - Problems Solved!

Author: Blaise Wilson
Caveat: These are the thoughts and ramblings of Blaise Wilson, they do not represent the EgaFem Community as a whole. Opinion posts are often poorly researched and highly biased. They are useful to start a discussion on a topic. Comments, debate, evidence for and against, and feedback are welcome.

Hypothesis: Is Self-Esteem the Root Cause?

While visiting Intersectional Feminism and Social Justice Warrior sites I find myself yelling repetitively at my screen ‘Self-Esteem, the solution to your problem is not forcing society to change for you, the problem is YOU! The problem is your lack of self-esteem!’

And after getting horse and bored from repeating myself I realised a subtle flaw in my actions. My screen is not a microphone and they can’t hear me.

However, this set me off thinking, ‘is self-esteem the root cause issue with most (not all) intersectional feminist and SJW problems?’

So I set about researching self-esteem and my findings were far more interesting than I could have hoped.

What is Self-Esteem?

Self-esteem is how you see yourself. Not how others see you, not how society reacts to you. Your own personal perspective on you.

‘Healthy’ self-esteem is having a generally positive personal narrative about yourself [1]. Whereas a ‘negative’ self-esteem puts yourself down, focusing on weaknesses, mistakes, finding it hard to see anything positive [1].

Self-esteem is different from self-confidence. Self-confidence is how you feel about a specific ability, self-esteem is how you feel about yourself as a whole [3]. Confidence changes with context [6], for example I am very confident in my ability to write articles, but I have no confidence in my singing ability. I feel great about myself because I focus on what I can do, and don’t let what I can’t do bother me.

Self-esteem is not your successes or failures. Someone can be amazingly successful but still have low self-esteem. Conversely, but more rarely, someone can be a complete failure but have great self-esteem.

How Does Low Self-Esteem Develop?

Low self-esteem can be taught or developed through [1, 2]
  • systematic punishment, neglect or abuse
  • failing to meet parental standards
  • failing to meet peer-group standards
  • being on the receiving end of other people's stress or distress
  • belonging to a family or social group that other people are prejudiced towards
  • an absence of praise, warmth, affection or interest
  • being the odd one out
  • bullying or intimidation
  • abusive relationships
  • persistent stress or hardship
  • traumatic events
  • difficult life events (e.g. divorce)

Some people’s personality and temperament make them more likely to have low self-esteem [1], however this doesn’t mean they are doomed to stay this way.

Getting into negative thinking patterns can reinforce low self-esteem [1], making it a hard to break habit.

The Impact of Low Self-Esteem

People with low self-esteem may create defence mechanisms and strategies to protect themselves. These include avoiding failures by not trying [5]. When they do try they focus on the negatives, such as the slightest criticism from others. This supports their ‘I’m rubbish’ narrative they have in their heads and take any negative comments (however constructively given) as a personal attack [4].

Low self-esteem can impact people’s daily lives in many ways. Low self-esteem: [1, 2]
  • is linked to mental health issues such as depression and anxiety
  • makes it hard to try new things due to a fear of failure
  • makes it hard to take risks
  • causes social isolation
  • contributes to alcohol and drug use
  • contributes to eating disorders
  • makes people worried what others think of them
  • makes people interpret others and make it personal e.g. if someone compliments you on your appearance, you might think they meant that you must have been looking unattractive before – purposely taking offense at everything
  • makes people become judgemental of others, as they are judgemental of themselves. This encourages projection, also known as Sargon’s Law - what you say of others is true of yourself
  • produces a low expectation of yourself
  • creates an expectation of failure, sometimes to the point of sabotage your own work. This creates a fear of success
  • encourages a personal narrative of “better not to try , than to fail”
And when taken to an extreme, a special snowflake is born. Someone who can’t handle any negativity, to the point of being unable to handle the slighting disagreement of opinon, as that means they could be wrong. And being wrong is failure.

They need a safe space to protect them from people who might commit ‘the microaggression of disagreement.’

The Narrative and Low Self-Esteem

I’m sure reading through the list of ‘impact of low self-esteem’ I wasn’t the only one who had that ‘ah ha!’ moment of recognising the actions of many SJW and Intersectional Feminists. If you didn't, you can find an example of their actions here: [10]

I felt like I was onto something with my hypothesis. But the next question… does the SJW or Intersectional Feminism narrative encourage low self-esteem in those who follow its tenants?

One of the key parts of the Intersectional Feminism and SJW narrative is the Hierarchy of Oppression [9], also known as Privilege Theory or when only considering gender, Patriarchy Theory which is also supported by Radical Feminism.

As a simple explanation Privilege Theory claims the majority is privileged by virtue of being the majority. And any minority is oppressed by the majority by virtue of being a minority. This is especially true when considering positions of power.

As an example, the UK government tends to be made up of heterosexual, white, cis-gender men. Therefore under Privilege Theory all homosexuals, non-whites, trans people, and women must be victims of oppression by all heterosexuals, whites, cis-gendered, and men respectively regardless of personal circumstances.

Egalitarian Feminism not only disagrees with the collective notion of Privilege Theory, but finds it to be actively detrimental to society. Lets revisit the way low self-esteem can be developed with Privilege Theory in mind:
  • systematic punishment, neglect or abuse
  • failing to meet parental standards
  • failing to meet peer-group standards
  • being on the receiving end of other people's stress or distress
  • belonging to a family or social group that other people are prejudiced towards
  • an absence of praise, warmth, affection or interest
  • being the odd one out
  • bullying or intimidation
  • abusive relationships
  • persistent stress or hardship
  • traumatic events
  • difficult life events (e.g. divorce)
Being constantly told you are either a victim or you victimise others by virtue of a trait you have no control over, in my opinion, meets all these criteria. For example 'failing to meet parental standards' may happen if your parents are SJW/ Intersectional Feminists and you happen to be born as an 'oppressor class' by having the audacity of being male.

The Hierarchy of Oppression pretty much promotes low self-esteem for both the oppressed and oppressing groups. After all it’s pretty hard to feel great about oneself when you are constantly told you are either a constant victim or you constantly harm others just by existing. Those who subscribe to this narrative are destroying their own self-esteem, and the result is the 'special snowflake'. Low self-esteem seems to be the root cause of many of the perceived problems,and certainly drives many of the actions of SJW and Intersectional Feminists.

Empower Yourself to Raise Your Self-Esteem

But don’t despair, there’s hope! There are ways to improve self-esteem. That first step is to recognise low self-esteem. It may be hard at first, but it is hugely important to build enough self-esteem to be able to listen to alternative narratives and criticism.

Here is a list of things you can do to improve your self-esteem [1, 2, 8]:

  • Accept your mental wellbeing is your personal responsibility, and no one else’s
  • Accept building self-esteem will not be easy or quick, and could even be painful, but it will be worth it
  • Do things you enjoy such as hobbies
  • Allow yourself time to enjoy things, give yourself permission to be happy
  • Address underlying issues, for example feelings of guilt
  • Work, even if it is a volunteer role
  • Learn to ignore the haters, but not by avoiding them through censoring/ blocking them
  • Build positive relationships, and get rid of negatives ones. Positive friends will
    • Show you they care with action, not just words
    • May be critical but will be positive about it, help you to grow and develop not tear you down and discourage you to try
    • Don’t blame you for things outside your control
    • Are patient
    • Are supportive
    • Are encouraging
  • Learn to be assertive
  • Look after your physical health
    • Exercise
    • Sleep
    • Diet
  • Challenge yourself
  • Learn to identify and challenge negative beliefs - perhaps starting with Privilege Theory if you believe that
  • Build positive habits
  • Don’t take things personally, when you do think about why you took it that way
  • Think about why others might have said something you took personally, were they having a bad day? Where they projecting? Do they have low self-esteem?
  • Concentrate on positive things about yourself, not the negative – beware of biased negative thinking
  • Have a feel-good box or list
  • Try to learn mindfulness
  • Do positive things, like helping others or animals


If you feel you need additional or professional help counselling, therapy, and Cognitive Behavioural Theory [6] are recommended treatments.

And don’t forget, there are plenty of people in the world with low self-esteem. It is nothing to be ashamed of. But it is your personal responsibility to address your relationship with yourself. No one else’s. And definitely not societies.



Monday, 20 June 2016

Blaise's Opinon: My Respect for Sargon of Akkad

Author: Blaise Wilson
Caveat: These are the thoughts and ramblings of Blaise Wilson, they do not represent the EgaFem Community as a whole. Opinion posts are often poorly researched and highly biased. They are useful to start a discussion on a topic. Comments, debate, evidence for and against, and feedback are welcome.

Sargon of Akkad

Sargon of Akkad is a YouTube content creator who specialises in "finding the truth of the matter using rational arguments backed up by evidence... on a wide variety of subjects, varying from gaming, anti-ideology, history and fiction." [5]

I used to want to be like Sargon. I used to respect to him.

Used too.

But now I don’t want to be like Sargon. I want to learn why and put systems in place to stop me from following in his footsteps.

What did I used to like about Sargon?

In a word: Humbleness.

I still follow Sargon’s videos, but no longer with a sense of awe.

Sargon has lost his ability to consider he could be wrong.

In his early videos he listened. He considered. He pondered.

Now if you disagree with him you're an ‘idiot.’ One example of this is his attitude concerning the response to his petition.

Long story short, he asked for certain university courses to be (albeit temporarily) banned. Effectively demanding they be no-platformed. And then he claimed this wasn’t censorship. Yet when people Sargon agrees with are no-platformed, suddenly that is different, that it is definitely evil censorship and must be fought against.

One rule for me, a different one for thee.

I think the petition called for censorship. That made me feel uncomfortable. But my husband pointed out that not all censorship is bad. For example we censor child porn. And I agree with that. Therefore, not all censorship is wrong and this concept  is one of those lovely grey areas that are so much fun to explore.

What Sargon requested wasn’t inherently wrong, but it was an idea that needed to be explored for the pros and cons it created. It would be great if we could move the discussion onto debating the petition itself instead of being distracted by the label of censorship.

I believe what Sargon was proposing was censorship. But, according to him, the sheer audacity of my questioning The Great Sargon of Akkad made me an ‘idiot’ [1].

How did this happen?

Only Sargon knows the inner workings of his mind and how he got onto the path he’s on.

Perhaps Sargon has become part of the Gender Grievance Industry, as defined by Wooly Bumblebee as high profile people being more interesting in fiscal gain than actually solving problems [4].

Driven by the cognitive bias of blind dedication in his fanbase it is human nature to repeat, and even take more extreme actions that gander a positive response - especially if you are financially dependant on your followers. Perhaps, Sargon is a victim of his own success.

Sargon has unintentionally surrounded himself with ‘yes men’ and anyone who tries to stand against him gets lambasted by Sargon’s followers. Although Sargon can’t control those who follow him, it doesn’t stop this from having a psychological impact in his sense of belonging and a positive feeling of being right.

After all Sargon is only human. As am I.

And I’ve been one of those impacted by cognitive bias of blind dedication to Sargon. I signed his petition.

I didn’t even read it.

I trusted Sargon. I trusted what he said was true and right. It wasn’t until Wooly Bumblebee stood up to him, despite the huge negative backlash against her, that I started to think for myself.

I was a sheep, part of Sargon’s flock. Sargon has so much power and I’m not sure he realises it. And what he does with that power is up to him (yes, I’m a bit annoyed he hasn’t support the petition EgaFem has been pushing: but that’s my personal grievance and Sargon can’t support everything people tweet at him).

The God of Logic

Once I started questioning Sargon I saw the logical fallacies sneaking in.

Calling those who disagree with him a variety of insults was just the start. One of the fallacies he falls into most often when discussing Feminism is the ‘No True Scotsman.’

Sargon defines all feminists as Marxist [2], and claims Christina Hoff Sommers therefore isn’t a feminist because she doesn’t fit Sargon’s definition of Feminism. Sargon’s arrogance shines through as he claims first wave feminists, who believe in Equality of Opportunity, are not ‘real’ feminists.

He often strawman’s feminists by putting words into our mouths claiming that we say ‘but she isn’t a real feminist’ when one of our own disagrees with our personal definition. Ironically, I believe there is a internet law which states when someone makes a character judgement about someone they disagree with, that character judgement is usually true about themselves.

I’m sure there are feminists who do that. But I personally don’t! I believe feminism is hugely diverse and there are plenty of feminists who I don’t agree with – but they are still feminists. And I don’t appreciate Sargon dictating to me what he's decided I think based on his personal definitions.

There are others too, but I think that is enough to demonstrate my point that Sargon has begun to get lazy, allowing logical fallacies to creep into, and in some cases dominate his arguments.

Sargon the Bully

The final nail in the coffin of the death of my respect of Sargon focuses on his actions.

He seemed to encourage and revel in the joint dogpiling of those Sargon thinks deserves to be taken down a notch or two. The anti-rape mass tweeting towards Jess Phillips, a British MP and feminist, is a classic example.

As a short summary, Sargon tweeted to Jess that he wouldn't rape her. She rose to it and the whole thing was rather amusing.

But then she had over 600 similar tweets over a very short time. This would have an impact on her. At the very least this would have disrupting her ability to use twitter effectively, and at worse make her feel attacked by a horde.

And to what end? What was the goal of dogpiling her? What did it accomplish? Instead she used it to her own advantage to further her narrative of oppression and victimisation. All round not a great outcome.

And in all this, Sargon laughs with no empathy for how his actions have impacted another person.

Again, I will reiterate Sargon has no direct control of his followers. But nor does the leader have direct control of their gang members. Sargon targets someone knowing they will be dogpiled, and does nothing to discourage it. Like a bully in the playground setting their group on an unsuspecting victim. Sure, the bully doesn’t have direct control over those beneath them, but they have the power to mitigate or discourage them. Sargon's action and attitudes tells a vivid story.

In the case of Sargon, he actively encourages it by giving it positive attention and provides further hostility towards his intended target as demonstrated in his TWIS video for 12/06/2016 in which he actively defends the actions of those dogpiling Jess Phillips [3] and further humiliates her.

Finally I find his blanket hostility, especially directed towards feminism, actively discourages those feminists like myself who agree with Sargon on many things from coming forward and working with him to help create change. It seems Sargon is more interested in his narrative that actually seeking out solutions with help of potential allies based on their label.

Going Forward

I’m grateful to Sargon for showing me what to avoid, allowing me to have a chance to learn from him.

I know I’m only human and could easily suffer the same fate as Sargon. So I need to be very aware of it.

To start with I need to remember I could be wrong. I need to attempt to dig out my most deeply held assumptions and beliefs. I need to hold them up and say ‘these ideas may be flawed.’ I need to learn to be humble. This isn’t to say I will always be wrong. But I need to listen to others and question my own thinking before I can question theirs.

Another key point is to surround myself with people I trust to disagree with me. It is easy to create an echo chamber, but much harder to create a debate chamber. I need to keep my friends close, but my ‘enemies’ closer.

Instead of being worried when I see a notification, I need to be inspired by it. Face the challenges and accept that I could be wrong – and someone could contribute to my thinking by challenging me. After all, they've taken time out of their day to provide that feedback. Their time should be appreciated.

And finally I need to avoid the Gender Grievance Industry. The only way I can do that is to ensure I am never financially dependant on EgaFem. I must ensure I maintain a second job that will keep me fed and a roof over my head, or that my husband can cover the costs should EgaFem collapse overnight if my support dries up.

This is a difficult trade off, as I want to dedicate more time to EgaFem and having a day job cuts into EgaFem time. But I should focus on quality, not quantity and hope my followers respect that, and continue to respect me.

With thanks

Despite my personal misgivings, I still recommend Sargon's videos, just take them with a pinch of salt. Sargon of Akkad YouTube:

This post was inspired by a comment on 11/06/2016 by DaisyPumpkin2317 on my video NA*ALT:

DaisyPumpkin2317’s channel:

DaisyPumpkin‘s blog:


Saturday, 18 June 2016

Rape: Female Perpetrator Victims. Please mirror.

Author: Blaise Wilson
Egalitarian Feminist
Update 28/09/2016: new petition has been launched - let's get this one debated in parliament!
EgaFem gives permission for this article to be mirrored anywhere, included on websites and printed press - on the condition this article is cited and a link is included to Edits may be made so long as the underlying message remains intact.

This article is in support of a petition the UK Government to include female perpetrators in their legal definition of rape:

According to the UN definition, Violence Against Women includes any act of gender-based violence that causes psychological harm or suffering to women, such as the arbitrary deprivation of liberty through increased fear [1].

The legal UK definition of rape uses gendered language that excludes women from being physical capable of rape by defining it as unconsented penetration with a penis [2].

By excluding female perpetrators, the law not only denies women their agency to cause harm, but leaves their victims, both male and female, unable to get justice or even basic levels of support.

The gendered language in the UK legal definition of rape promotes a Rape Culture based on Rape Myths that encourage both victim blaming and vindication of the perpetrators. Victims of female perpetrators are systemically disbelieved at every level, from the initial reporting to the authorities, through the courts, and within the wider community of friends, family, and the support agencies.

Women force oral sex, sexual touching, and sexual intercourse onto their victims using the same strategies as men. These include [3]
  • threats of violence, including threatening their victims lives, sometimes with a weapon
  • physical and emotional domination, abuse and aggression
  • restraints
  • use of, or take advantage of, intoxication by drugs and alcohol
High impulsivity, hostile attributional bias, poor emotional regulation, and callousness coupled with neurological and physical factors increase motivation and willingness by men and women to use aggression against others, include sexual aggression [4].

Victims of rape can suffer the additional indignation of their own body betraying them, leaving them further traumatized. Sexual arousal is an automated response that does not require mental consent. Women self-lubricate and men gain erections through high emotional states such as fear and anger, and victims report orgasming against their will during violent and traumatic rape [3].

Even male victim with martial arts or combat training have a tendency to freeze up, especially if their lives are threatened. Not fighting back is not consent [3].

Women’s impact is ignored through the gendered definition of rape. Victims of female perpetrators suffer in the same way as victims of male perpetrators, regardless of the gender of the victim. This includes [3, 5]
  • Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) such as flashbacks and an inability to sleep, isolation and feeling s of guilt
  • Impacts to their social life and emotional state
  • Becoming adverse to sex, or impaired sexual functions that can impact future relationships
  • Male victims suffer an additional challenge as due to the impact of their perceived masculinity
Rape Myths and Rape Culture are hugely prevalent and systematic within society causing victims of female perpetrators to be overwhelmingly disbelieved. These create an atmosphere of blaming the victim while exonerating the perpetrator, providing excuses for female perpetrators. This in turn encourages female sexual predators to further victimise others.

According to the Home Office in 2007 victims “deserve to be supported, to be treated with dignity and respect, and to see their offenders brought to justice” [cited by 3, p25]

The UK legal definition of rape creates a gender bias narrative, impacting the supporting evidence to exclude female perpetrators and their victims. This causes increased undue fear in women, treated them only as possible victims of male violence. This narrative causes psychological harm to women, and restricts their liberty by discouraging them from entering male dominated spaces.

It also denies women equal responsibility to men for the same actions and teaches women they do not have the agency to cause harm. Women’s actions are not taken seriously. If women are not taken seriously and society assumes they have no impact and agency when they choose to commit abhorrent acts, why should they be taken seriously, and have the same impact and agency when they demand equal rewards for the same job?

However, those who are impacted most by the wording of the UK definition of rape, are the rape victims themselves.

Equal rights, equal responsibility, for better or worse.

The UK legal definition needs to include female perpetrators of unconsented sexual acts. If you are a UK citizen please sign and share this petition, if you are not please spread the petition far and wide to reach as many UK citizens as you can: 

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[1] UN Definition of Violence Against Women:
[2] UK rape law:
[3] Nicola L. Fisher, Afroditi Pina, An overview of the research literature on male sexual victimization, undated. Available at:
[4] Nicola Graham-Kevan, The Re-Emergence of Male Victims, 2014. Available at:
[5] NHS PTSD symptoms:
[6] Petition the UK Gov to change the UK rape laws: 

Suggested citation

Blaise Wilson, Sept 2016, ‘Rape: Female Perpetrators Victims. Please mirror.’ Egalitarian Feminism. Available at: